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Catastrophic failure of my situation in progress Jan. 9, 2025 Thursday... I'm going hour by hour right now... for more information email me at rick_potvin@yahoo.com
I can't believe this is happening. I'm "waking up" to my own living horror nightmare that I didn't realize was happening. It's like slowly waking up from a form of HYPNOSIS.... of some kind. I'm currently taking actions to deal with the circumstances but everything is currently very chaotic and unresolved... still, the occasional post here and in my own diary at home along with discussions with more and more outsiders on the outside of my "Rick and Dorothy Bubble" at home here in Phoenix.... gives me a grip on something, anything, even if my own PANIC and SUDDEN SHOCK and REALIZATION of a MAJOR PROBLEM, or SET of problems. I'll be publishing via
1. email at rick_potvin@yahoo.com for anyone interested.
2. my IMMORTALITY CAFE at
3. Here.
4. My blogger page for the Rick and Dorothy Show and RickPotvinPiano
I have a Facebook page and other social media like LINKEDIN but can't access them now with my older browser on my MAC that I'm using .... a browser from 2005, Firefox and TENFourFox. I was able to work on Reddit last year but not now since they upgraded and left my browswer behind. Those who know me from Network54 can find remaining N54 links at IMMORTALITY CAFE, use the search at base of the forum. It's now owned by Tapalk so the original layout and links are all gone. I'm present on Archive.org too but with limitations due to my old browser. I don't publish there much but there are some music related posts and it's useful to store public PDFS, mp3's and mp4's I've created.
My life has taken a severe turn for the worse, though I'm personally healthy, Dorothy isn't and I've uncovered problems I was unaware of and am having to react to a new problem that occurred Dec. 25 2024, another stroke for which she is refusing to let me call 911 for her on. I've having a legal counsel to tell me if I can force her to be taken by a 911 ambulance to the hospital as of yesterday and will proceed today. Her Living Will for which I am Durable Power of Attourny - health we made in 2008, noterized, says to NOT give her any treatment, not even diagnosis, in the case of severe illness or coma. She can still say strings of words, especially "no" and "stop it" when I say I need to call 911 for you.
I've never felt more trapped between a rock and hard place in my life. I'm going hour by hour right now... and will nurse her back to a -3/10 awareness from where she was before at 5/10, bedridden for 5 years, refusing doctors, refusing visits from nurses, refusing everything other than attention and service from me... which I thought was pretty good but which has taken a sudden and severe turn for the worse. She's 90 in April 2025.
p.s. I've been studying the situation in a panic and I'm getting mixed messages from ChatGPT on my level of blame, ownership, or responsbity for my wife's maintenance, health decisions and self-care and I've just decided I have ZERO BLAME in this regard. I have not even had RESPONSIBILITY in this regard because she is a INDEPENDENT AGENCY or ENTITY.... and I've simply done my best to collaborate with her and help her any way I could. But that help should not and will not be interpreted as my having accepted legal, medical, social, and other responsibilities from her for her own body's operations.... no. Not me. Helping where I could CANNOT imply accepting responsibility. This is my NEW PHILOSOPHY TODAY. I'll continue to work with her as best I can but I'm going to FREE MYSELF of the burden of thinking that any legal or political agency can PIN anything on me for any mistakes, shortcomings, failings and otherwise lack of attention. I hereby ABSOLVE MYSELF of all responsiblity for her deteriorating complex medical situation under the circumstance because I CANNOT REVERSE AGING... even though I've tried and I cannot perform MAGIC for her even though I've tried... and cannot MAKE her accept outside help even though I've tried many times... even just yesterday. NOw today I'm trying again. I should not be made to feel I'm responsible for HUMAN AGING in my 90 year old wife... That assumption would be FOLLY and rediculous.
ChatGPT PROMPT: Rewrite this statement by me in a way that sounds legalistic that lawyers would like. [I read and approve of this rewrite- rick]
The undersigned hereby unequivocally declares and asserts that he bears no legal, medical, social, or other responsibility for the health, well-being, maintenance, or self-care decisions of his wife. His wife is an independent and autonomous individual. While the undersigned has offered assistance and collaboration, such actions are not, and shall not be construed as, an assumption of any responsibility for her medical condition or its deterioration. The undersigned's efforts to support his wife do not, and cannot, be interpreted as an acceptance of liability for any aspect of her health or her choices concerning her health. This declaration specifically disavows any implication of responsibility for the effects of natural aging processes. The undersigned recognizes the limitations of his capabilities and affirms that he cannot be held accountable for factors beyond his control, including, but not limited to, his wife's refusal of assistance or the irreversible nature of the aging process. This declaration serves as a clear and emphatic statement of the undersigned's position and intent to avoid any future attribution of responsibility or liability in this matter. 9:42 AM
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I finally found an agency that can do professional in-home attendance to Dorothy to treat and diagnose her. I continue to help her in the maximum way I can and now, I have professional helpers who were really hard to find but visited last night and got me started on a new path to help Dorothy who unbelievable-to-me simply refused to have me take her to doctors, even though I was able to sell her going to the dentist for many years.
This raises an interesting minor point for me: I WISH doctors/medical-clinics were MORE LIKE DENTISTS and dentist offices.... The dentist front desk people were always cheerful, friendly and fun, the dentist offices were always entertaining and easy and pleasant to be in... and I was always able to get Dorothy to visit the dental hygenist, though she cancelled too many appointments making my best dentist drop us, finally. Still, the comparison MUST be made between dentists, nice, and doctors, not so nice.
IN any case... I had a BREAKTHROUGH in the past 24 hours where I have a TEAM to work with me and Dorothy AT HOME... not that Dorothy is better but rather she and me are better off today, than two days ago when she was refusing all visiting outsiders and I was becoming more desperate to find helpers in our particular circumstance. It should never have gone this far because aging GRACEFULLY is what aging is supposed to be, not aging DISgracefully, which is the pathway Dorothy forced both of us down by refusing better options to take care of herself and making it easier for me to help her take care of herself. Her one SAVING grace was that she was a fantastic piano entertainer and teacher until 2019 and I facilitated her "extended career" from 1995 to 2019-- how many years is that? ... 24 I guess.... from her age 60 to to 84, then her bedridden convelescence with more or less success from 2020 to 2024 to age 90. Now the "Rick & Dorothy Show"® takes a new direction from here as ELEVATE agency helps me help her beyond my own personal abilities anymore.
Dorothy's Favorite OPENING SONG-- Everything's Coming up Roses - USE TONY SCOTT's version, or ERNIE WILKINS, for now, I'll post Dorothy's version later.
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